Thursday, March 29, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_029)


Quote of the day:

“Before you agree to do anything that might add even the smallest amount of stress to your life, ask yourself: What is my truest intention? Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you. When it's right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it.” --Oprah Winfrey

Consider:

So much of our stress comes from unnecessary duties we take on, or allow others to place upon us. Periodically take time out to honestly evaluate all that you do and ask yourself the question, “What is my truest intention?”

If you are feeling stressed out with too much to do and can’t seem to accomplish all that you’ve set out to do, write down your to-do list in order of priority. Then go through each task, duty and obligation, and ask yourself,  “Is this really a priority for me? Is this my goal or someone else’s expectation?” Then major on your goals.

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

REFLECTIONS -- Giving Your Best


Aurtor Unknown

There is a fable well known in India of a poor beggar who lived in a State ruled by a Maharaja. The beggar had no home but put up every night in a free choultry--or lodging-house--sleeping on a mat on the floor, and covering himself in the cooler nights with old rags. His clothing was tattered and old, and, having no means of earning a livelihood other than begging, he used to go out in the morning after a meal of cold rice left over from the previous day and sit by the wayside with his beggar's bowl. For 'punyam' (merit), passers-by used to throw some grains of rice or copper coins his way, so he usually had enough rice for two meals a day, and enough money to buy sticks for a fire and a few vegetables, fish or dhall for curry, which he ate at the choultry.

One day he heard that on the morrow the Maharaja himself was coming that way in his chariot. That raised his hopes, as he said to himself, 'The Maharaja will not give me a handful of rice or a copper coin, or even a few annas, but nothing less than a golden "Varaha."' The next day he took up his usual position by the side of the road, and patiently awaited the Maharaja's coming. The sun stood overhead and still he waited in the noonday heat, but no sign of the ruler. Patiently he waited, still full of hope, until almost sunset and then he heard the welcome sound of the horses' hoofs and the chariot wheels. Stepping into the road, he brought the chariot to a standstill, approached the Maharaja and begged for alms. Instead of giving him anything, the Maharaja extended his hands and asked the beggar to give him something. Extremely disappointed and disgusted at a wealthy ruler begging from a poor beggar, he counted out five grains of rice from his bowl and placed them angrily in the hands of the Maharaja. 'Namasthe,' said the Maharaja, and continued his journey.

With a sore heart and very disappointed, the beggar went that evening to his choultry, took out his winnowing fan and began to clean his rice for his meal. As he did so, a small glittering object attracted his attention. Picking it up, he saw that it was a grain of gold. Laying it carefully on one side, he went on winnowing till he found another glittering golden grain, then another. Now the search began in real earnest, and a fourth was found among the rice. After another search he saw a fifth and put it with the others. But, no matter how long he searched after that, he found not another grain of gold.

Then the truth dawned on him. Five grains of rice given to the Maharaja had brought him in return five grains of gold. “What a fool I was!” he exclaimed regretfully, “If I'd known I would have given him all of it.”

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_028)


Quote of the day:

“Good timber does not grow with ease. The stronger the wind, the stronger the trees.”—Williard Marriott

Consider:

This reminds me of a tree story that has been a help to me in times of tempest.

A group of buyers were going through a great furniture factory, when their guide, the superintendent, pointed out a superbly grained and figured sideboard in natural wood. "I want you to observe the beauty of this oak," he said. "It is the finest selected timber of its kind, and the secret of the intricate and beautiful graining is just this: that the trees from which it was taken grew in a spot where they were exposed to almost constant conflict with storms."

It seems that the storm beaten tree develops the closest and finest and most intricately woven fibers. When it is cut down and the saws lay bare its exquisitely figured grain, the cabinetmaker selects it as the material for his finest work.

So it is with a human life beset by sorrows, tests and trials.

Next time you are in the middle of adversity, obstacles and troubles remember this story about trees. Those which have been exposed to adversity and rocked to and fro by the struggles of this life are made stronger and more beautiful.

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Monday, March 26, 2012

REFLECTION -- Put Out The Fire, Friends!

By Count Tolstoy

Count Tolstoy, the great Russian author and Christian reformer, gives us the following parable.

Ivan was a hardworking and prosperous Russian peasant. Gavrilo, his neighbor, was a cripple. Both of them had very large families, but they liked each other. Then one day something happened which made them bitter enemies.

A bantam hen belonging to Ivan's daughter flew over into Gavrilo's yard. He and his family were eyewitnesses of this fact. A little bit later they heard her cackle as though she had laid an egg. But when they came to look for the egg they found none.

The quarrel began when Ivan's family accused Gavrilo of stealing the egg. In typical Russian anger they began to tear one another's clothes and to fight. Ivan pulled out part of Gavrilo's beard, which to the Russian was the symbol of dignity and manhood. Upon this Gavrilo swore by heaven to have Ivan sent to jail for revenge.

Ivan's father tried to straighten out the quarrel, accusing them of behaving like foolish children; for, after all, they were fighting over nothing. An egg was worth little. But neither one of them listened. They went to court about it; and while the case was being heard a bolt was missing from Gavrilo's wagon, and immediately he accused Ivan's boy of stealing it. So there was another case in court. During all this time the two families quarreled with each other. First Ivan would have Gavrilo arrested for some supposed bad deed, and then the cripple would have Ivan fined for something he did, or was supposed to have done. At last a deep hatred filled the hearts of all concerned. Since they would not reason together they resorted to violence.

At a wedding attended by both families Gavrilo struck Ivan's wife when she accused him of horse-stealing; and she was confined to her bed for several weeks. Ivan thought that the cripple should be sent to Siberia, but he only succeeded in having him punished with twenty lashes. When Gavrilo heard this sentence imposed he turned pale and swore revenge. "All right," he muttered; "he may lash my back. It will bum; but I will set his house on fire.'

Ivan heard what Gavrilo said and reported it to the judge. The judge called Gavrilo back and asked him what he had said, to which he replied, "Nothing!" Even the judges were frightened. The oldest of them spoke to Gavrilo in a friendly manner. "See here, you had better make up, and be friends again. You might have killed Ivan's wife, and we would have put a rope around your neck and hanged you. Confess, now; ask his pardon, and he will forgive you. Then we will change the sentence." But this did not make any impression upon Gavrilo; the sentence was carried out, and both neighbors went home hating each other.

That night it occurred to Ivan to look around the yard before going to bed, to see whether any harm had been done. There by the fence he noticed something moving. He listened, and beard a rustling of leaves and hay. Then he saw a man kindling a bundle of straw in his shed. "Now," muttered Ivan, "I have caught him in the act."

The dry straw blazed up and set the whole shed on fire. Ivan, instead of putting the small fire out, tried to catch Gavrilo; but, lame as he was, he jumped away and ran behind the shed. Ivan grasped his coat, but it tore away. He rushed after him, only to be struck by a blow that knocked him senseless.

While he lay unconscious on the ground Ivan's shed and house burned down, for there was none to put it out. Then the sparks flew over and caught Gavrilo's own house and shed, until at last the whole village was burned, and all were homeless. The old father was rescued with difficulty; and when Ivan went to him he said, "I told you so. Now tell me, who really did all this damage?"

"He, Gavrilo. I caught him at it. Right before my eyes he touched off the straw," cried Ivan.

"Ivan." said the father, "whose foolishness was it? In God's name, whose fault was it? You could have put out the fire and yet you preferred to chase Gavrilo." Only then did he realise what he had done, and he fell on his knees before his father and asked his and God's forgiveness.

Then his father told him not to tell of Gavrilo's crime, to spare him, and then God would forgive them both. So he followed his father's advice. No one ever knew who set the fire.

Ivan forgave Gavrilo. Gavrilo was much surprised that Ivan did not tell the judges who had set the village on fire. At first he was afraid of Ivan, but he got over it. While they were rebuilding their houses both families lived in one shed, and there was never any more quarreling. Ivan had learned his lesson. He knew now that a fire ought to be put out in the beginning, and that getting even through revenge results only in creating another wrong.

An evil act can be corrected only by a good deed. Love and forgiveness are the pillars of friendship.

Friday, March 23, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_027)


Quote of the day:

“Repetition of the same thought or physical action develops into a habit which, repeated frequently enough, becomes an automatic reflex.”—Norman Vincent Peale

Consider: 

Excellent advice! In other words, you are what you repeatedly do. Take a look at what you do, and you’ll see what you are becoming. For example, a generous person is not just an act, but a habit.  We become generous by behaving that way repeatedly.

If there are areas you would like to change in, good for you. Here’s how:

§         What good habit would you like to replace a bad habit with?

§         Describe what that behavior looks like.

§         Follow your description for a minimum of 30 days. By then it should have become a habit and something you now do automatically.

§         Repeat the process for as many new habits that you want.

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Thursday, March 22, 2012

REFLECTIONS -- Don't Be Fooled

Don’t Be Fooled

Every person has an inner beauty, a touch of the divine. Just because you don’t see it at first glance doesn’t mean it isn’t there. Wherever you are and whoever you are, there are treasures right in front of you. Don’t be fooled by appearances.

Consider the geode. Outwardly a geode is just a rock—sometimes a big rock, but a rock nonetheless—and is usually found lying around with other rocks in some desert place. In fact, its name derives from the Greek word geoides, which means earthy. It looks just like the rest of the earth that surrounds it, but to the trained eye, it is no ordinary rock. The gem hunter or geologist knows that inside that rock is a wonder of nature that, when the rock is carefully split open, will take your breath away.

The expert will carefully saw the rock in two to reveal dazzling crystals inside, such as the purple amethyst. He is often not quite sure what he will find, but with eager anticipation he skillfully goes about his job and is rewarded by being the first to see the wonder that lies within.

Will you look for beauty in others today? It might take some careful work to get through the stony surface, but there’s no telling what beauty you will uncover!

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_026)


Quote of the day:

“The truly successful person inspires others to do more than they have thought possible for themselves.”—Denis Waitley

Consider:

Everyone needs to feel confident and secure in the knowledge that he or she has something to offer others. Building confidence is like building a large structure. It takes time, patience, and the right kind of building blocks. A solid foundation needs to be laid brick by brick. The blocks for building confidence in others come in various forms—recognition, encouragement, appreciation, acceptance, admiration, trust, and above all, love.

Keep plenty of these building blocks on hand and use them at every opportunity. When you notice someone has done something that is commendable, don’t keep silent. When someone does a good job or is of service to you, appreciate them, voice your thankfulness. When you see someone struggling with a new or difficult task, show faith in them. When you notice someone hiding on the sidelines, involve that person in a positive way.

Build your structure with care, because while nothing builds confidence like success, nothing damages it as quickly or surely as failure. Tailor your expectations to individuals’ needs and abilities, and then praise them when they do well. Be mindful not to push them or expect too much too soon.

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Monday, March 19, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_025)



Quote of the day:
“Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out.” --Art Linkletter 

Consider: 
Want every day to turn out well, no matter what the circumstances? Here is the secret: Look for the good in every situation. There is a positive way to look at any difficulty or disappointment. 

If you are inclined to dwell on the negative, stop! Getting critical or depressed never makes things better. You might feel that you deserve a little self-pity, but you will only drag others down and feel the worse for it. Whereas if you look at even the “bad” things in a positive way, it will help you pull out of the doldrums. 

There is more than enough negativity and cynicism in the world today. You can’t counter the global problem, but you can control your own outlook and keep from falling prey to it yourself. 

Determine to make the best of bad situations, and you’ll make your own world a happier place. You’ll also attract more friends, because people are naturally attracted to positive people. And because you have an effect on others, you will end up changing more of the world than you may have thought possible!

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_024)

Quote of the day:

“Constant kindness can accomplish much. As the sun makes ice melt, kindness causes misunderstanding, mistrust, and hostility to evaporate.”--Dr. Albert Schweitzer, 1875-1965, Medical Missionary and Nobel Prize Winner

Consider:

I tend to agree with Dr. Schweitzer. I wonder sometimes, if he acquired his wisdom from the following fable:

The sun and the wind quarreled about which was the stronger. The wind said, "I'll prove I am. See that old man down there with a coat? I bet I can make him take his coat off quicker than you can."

So the sun went behind a cloud and the wind blew until it was almost a tornado, but the harder it blew the tighter the old man wrapped his coat about him.

Finally the wind calmed down and gave up; and then the sun came out from behind the cloud and smiled kindly on the old man. Presently, he mopped his brow and pulled off his coat. The sun then told the wind that gentleness and friendliness were always stronger than fury and force.

Next time you are trying to influence a situation, opt to show a little kindness and love instead of force.

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

REFLECTION -- Discouragement


Discouragement

Who doesn't get discouraged from time to time? It usually starts over some small thing—a little disappointment or mistake, a careless remark by a friend or coworker, or a negative thought about ourselves or our situation—but how it grows! Pretty soon everything seems wrong and our outlook becomes so clouded that we want to quit. We wish we could find a hole, crawl into it, and shut out the world.

The real problem is, the longer we continue in that negative vein, the deeper we sink and the harder it is to pull out of it. Worse yet, if we habitually give in to our negative self-chatter, it can lead to feelings of discouragement or worse yet depression—all three are killers! It will eventually destroy your dreams.

Here’s a good story to illustrate it.

According to a Bedouin fable, an Arab and his camel were crossing the desert. Night came and the temperature dropped. The Arab put up his tent, tied his camel to it, and went to sleep.

The temperature dropped further, and the camel asked the Arab for refuge from the cold.

The Arab was adamant. "There is only room in the tent for one!"

The camel was quiet for a few minutes, but soon asked again. "Please, Master! Just my nose. If I could just put my nose in your tent, it would keep me from freezing out here."

The Arab reluctantly agreed.

The camel's nose became warm, but after a while the temperature went down even more. The camel woke the Arab and asked, "Please, can I just put my forelegs in the tent? They are very cold!"

Again the Arab reluctantly agreed. "Only your forelegs, nothing more!" So the camel nudged his forelegs into the tent and they became warm.

After some time, the camel woke the Arab again. "Master, I must put my hind legs in the tent. Otherwise I fear that they will freeze and I won't be able to finish our journey tomorrow. What good is a camel with frozen hind legs?"

So the Arab agreed once more, and the camel moved his hind legs in. But since there was only room in the tent for one, the Arab was forced to move out into the cold, where he barely survived the night.

Negativity is like that camel. It just needs a small opening to get started—usually a thought that seems to have some basis in truth or reason—but if you entertain that thought, pretty soon it and a whole lot more like it move in and take over.

Shut the door on any negative self-chatter before it has a chance to get in and take over.
Don't let the camel get its nose inside your tent.

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_023)

(Complements of www.ActionVisionCoaching.com)

Quote of the day:

“Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.” –John N. Mitchell

Consider:

Our attitudes impact our lives greatly. A wise young woman said: “In absence of great challenge, we feel safe; when everything is clearly in sight, we are at ease. But then, we see the challenge in front of our eyes, and quiver. We see the monsters and pray for deliverance. But I want to look on these things in life, not as fearful, looming giants, but as challenges that are worth pursuing, even if just for the thrill of experiencing them. Life isn’t just about survival. It’s about adventure.”

Periodically take time to assess your attitudes. Do your problems appear like looming giants standing over you or do you see them as adventures? Do you tackle obstacles like a warrior who is happy for the challenge and the chance to test his skills and strength, or do you view difficulties as monsters out to destroy you?

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_022)


Quote of the day:

“I have never met a man so ignorant that I couldn't learn something from him.”—Galileo Galilei

Consider:

Everyone has at least one good quality or skill to pass on, and a wise person will look for that something. What some people have to offer is obvious, but with others it is hidden and it must be drawn out.

Sometimes the learning experience doesn’t center on some special skill or knowledge the other person has, but from simply being around that person and partaking of his or her good qualities, such as faith, patience, optimism, or outgoing love and concern for others.

You can even learn from some people about how not to behave, what not to do, and why not to follow in their footsteps. It’s been said that a wise man learns from his mistakes, but a wiser man learns from the mistakes of others.

If you can learn to see people from the angle of “this person has something to offer that can help make me a better person,” you’ll not only learn something, but you’ll also be more likely to focus on things you respect in them and thereby build stronger and more meaningful relationships.

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana

Tuesday, March 6, 2012

REFLECTION -- Second Chances

Second Chances
By Dana Bosley

Mistakes are humbling and discouraging, especially when others feel the repercussions. When people see how their mistakes have hurt others, they are usually sorry. They want to make amends, to do better. More than ever, this is when they need to feel trusted—that someone has faith in them.

Remember that the next time someone around you makes a mistake. If it’s within your power, look for ways to give the person a second chance.
It’s difficult not to react negatively and make others feel bad for their mistakes. It is strength, not weakness, to give people a second chance when they are truly sorry for their mistakes and want to do better.

Often people will succeed or fail according to the amount of faith others express in them. If people feel that others expect them to fail, they often quit short of their potential. They think, What’s the use? Everyone already thinks I’m a failure! But if others express faith in them, even when it involves overlooking their weak points and forgiving them for their mistakes, this encourages them to stretch themselves and do better. They will want to live up to the faith you have placed in them.

It reminds me of the story that Dale Carnegie tells about Bob Hoover, a famous test pilot and frequent performer at air shows, was returning to his home in Los Angeles from an air show in San Diego. As described in the magazine Flight Operations, at three hundred feet in the air, both engines suddenly stopped. By deft maneuvering he managed to land the plane, but it was badly damaged although nobody was hurt.

Hoover's first act after the emergency landing was to inspect the airplane's fuel. Just as he suspected, the WW2 propeller plane he had been flying had been fueled with jet fuel rather than gasoline.

Upon returning to the airport, he asked to see the mechanic who had serviced his airplane. The young man was sick with the agony of his mistake. Tears streamed down his face as Hoover approached. He had just caused the loss of a very expensive plane and could have caused the loss of three lives as well.

You can imagine Hoover's anger. One could anticipate the tongue-lashing that this proud and precise pilot would unleash for that carelessness. But Hoover didn't scold the mechanic; he didn't even criticize him. Instead, he put his big arm around the man's shoulder and said, "To show you I'm sure that you'll never do this again, I want you to service my F-51 tomorrow."

How would you have reacted? Now that’s something to think about. If it’s not the way Hoover reacted but in anger than it’s time to rethink. 

Monday, March 5, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_021)


Quote:

“Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”—John Wooden

Consider:

Character is that special quality that makes men and women who have character appear larger than life. Character is more than just what a person says or does—it is what a person is.

Words like honorable, honest, trustworthy, dutiful, and fidelity, describe the person with integrity in any field of endeavor. But character moves beyond integrity, while integrity is ‘not doing wrong,’ character moves beyond that into ‘doing right’.

For example, if someone is slandering someone at work and one of the other workers chose not to participate, then they displayed integrity by not doing wrong. But to display character, a person must move beyond integrity, having the courage to standup for the person being slandered.

In other words, integrity refuses to do wrong, but character is more demanding, expecting people to have the courage to do right. By helping the person being  slandered, a person moves from integrity to character through their display of courage.

Think about this and see if you have the courage to go from integrity to character.

Wishing you all the best,

Dana Bosley

Friday, March 2, 2012

Motivational Minute (12_020)


Quote of the day:

“Never let a problem to be solved, become more important than the person to be loved.” -- Barbara Johnson

Consider:

How many times do we take those dearest to our hearts for granted, and give priority instead to solving the problem at hand? Shouldn’t it be the other way around?  Wouldn’t it be better to give our attention and priority to the ones we love and realize that there will always be obstacles to deal with? In addition, love gives us purpose and strength to overcome our obstacles and problems.

Reflect on your track record regarding problem solving in your life. When faced with difficulties, do you keep a cool head about you? Do you show the ones you love how much you value them? Do you draw strength from loving and being loved in return? Or do you shut others out of your life while your problems become the most important part of your day?  Redefine your priorities according.

Wishing you all the best,

Coach Dana